While getting divorced can be a difficult situation to process, it may not immediately be bad news. While that may initially sound unbelievable, there are many different aspects of this situation to consider. First and foremost, you should keep in mind that no strong, solid marriage has ever ended in a divorce. Divorce is reserved for marriages with serious problems. You might want to use this time to reflect and hire a Lincoln divorce lawyer to handle the finer details.

It’s important to remember that the divorce process itself is probably going to be quite difficult for you. You may have expected your marriage to last forever. When that doesn’t happen, it can feel like you’ve somehow failed. That’s not the case. A divorce is you choosing your own happiness over a situation that has already proven to be a source of distress for you. Depending on how reasonable your spouse is willing to be, this process could take quite a while to finalize.

Remember to Hire the Right Lawyer

One of the most important things you can do during your divorce is hire the right lawyer to represent your interests. You don’t want to go through this ordeal without experienced legal help, or you could end up losing significantly. At Stange Law Firm, our multi-state legal team has helped hundreds of clients work through their divorces and come out relatively unscathed on the other side. We can bring a personalized, compassionate, and focused approach to your case.

It may be important for you to recognize the divorce and marriage rates in your state, just so you realize you’re not alone in your decision. According to statistics from World Population Review, the marriage rate in Nebraska is one of the highest in the nation at almost 52% in 2025. The divorce rate, however, is considerably low at 2.6 per 1,000 residents as of 2023, according to statistical data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Choosing to end your marriage is one of the hardest things you can do, even if there is a bright side to doing so. The effect that such a decision can have on your mental health can be considerable. You might want to think about reaching out to a local divorce support group like DivorceCare or Second Saturday Divorce Workshop. Speaking to other people who have endured similar situations can be beneficial to your own healing journey. They can help.

The Positives of a Divorce

Sometimes, choosing to end a toxic or stressful situation, especially a marriage, can be beneficial to everyone involved. You understand your personal boundaries more than anyone, and the last thing you should ever tolerate is somebody, even your spouse, crossing those boundaries maliciously and on purpose. If you think it’s right to end the marriage over that boundary, that’s your decision to make. These are some of the many positives that could come with your divorce:

  • When significant life events happen, they can bring on a period of self-reflection and personal growth. Divorces are no different. You might want to consider taking this time to figure out who you are outside of your marriage and what you want out of life moving forward. 

    You may even want to start making a mental list of everything you don’t want in your next romantic partner. Traits like independence and loyalty may be more important now.

  • Additionally, getting divorced can vastly improve your self-confidence, especially if you were in a marriage that was toxic. Your spouse may have convinced you that your feelings didn’t matter and all that mattered was your wallet. Now that you’re out of that situation, you may be truly on your own for the first time in a while. Now you can focus on thriving without the weight of negativity holding you back. 

FAQs

Q: Why Should I Get Divorced?

A: You are the only person who knows why you should get divorced. Everyone who chooses to get divorced does so for their own personal reasons. If your spouse willfully crosses your boundaries, that can be enough for you to lose all trust, faith, and love in that person. From there, if you want to file for divorce and start moving on, that’s your choice to make. Never let anyone tell you that your reasons for ending your marriage are stupid or ill-advised.

Q: Should I Consider Saving My Marriage?

A: That depends on many different factors, including the strength of your marriage and the events that led to your divorce. Most people who get divorced do not reach that decision lightly. It may be brought on by a sudden, unforgivable betrayal like infidelity, or it could be the result of years of built-up resentment. Regardless, if you feel your marriage can’t be saved, that’s a valid feeling. If you feel it can be, you should pursue it. It ultimately is up to you.

Q: What Should I Do After Divorce?

A: After your divorce has been finalized, you can pretty much do whatever you want to do. Your marriage may have been toxic, painful, and a strong source of stress for you on a daily basis. You may never have been able to make your own decisions without negative pushback. Now that you’re free, you should do what you want. Travel, spend time with friends, get back on the dating scene, or just start a hobby. Do what makes you happy.

Q: Should I Hire a Lawyer?

A: Yes, you should hire a lawyer. Getting divorced can be unpredictable. You never know if your spouse is going to be reasonable or try to take everything from you. Without an experienced lawyer’s help, you may end up losing far more than you expected, including the bulk of your assets and custody of your kids. A lawyer can keep you from being taken advantage of and ensure your interests are protected.

Reach Out Today

At Stange Law Firm, we can assist you in developing a strong divorce case and help you figure out what to do when it’s all over. Contact us to speak to a member of our team about your case.