When you get divorced, there are many different factors you must consider. It’s important to keep in mind that your divorce won’t just affect you. It will impact your social circle, job performance, relationships with extended family, and your children. Your children may be more perceptive than you think, but they may also be blaming themselves. You should prioritize your children’s well-being throughout this process. A Lincoln divorce lawyer can help you.

It’s common to feel like the world is crashing down around you during your divorce. This may be something you’ve never experienced before, and you might not know exactly what to do to protect yourself. Moving forward, you may want to consider shifting your focus away from the actual divorce process, which your lawyer can help with, and towards building a new normal for your kids. They’ll need your guidance now more than ever, as they’ll likely be confused.

Why Hire a Divorce Lawyer?

One of the most important things you can have during this trying time is strong legal representation. Having the right lawyer by your side during your case can make a considerable difference, especially if your divorce is looking contentious. At Stange Law Firm, our multi-state legal team can provide you with a personalized approach to your case, as well as a compassionate one. We have assisted numerous clients nationwide with their cases.

According to recent data collected by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), the divorce rate in Nebraska is one of the lowest in the country, at 2.6 per 1,000 residents as of 2022. Additionally, the state has one of the highest marriage rates in the country, with recent data from World Population Review showing that rate at almost 52% in 2025. Seeking help from a local divorce support group, such as DivorceCare, may be a good idea. Talking to someone can help.

How Can You Help Your Children?

Helping your kids through the divorce process can be difficult, unpredictable, and fraught with its own unique issues. It may be challenging for you to immediately determine the most effective way to help your kids navigate this highly complex situation. You may want to confide in your lawyer, who can provide you with some potential options.

A divorce can cause children to act out, struggle academically, and mature too quickly. Here are some possible ways you may be able to help your kids through this:

  • One of the most important things you can do is keep your children out of the major conflict between you and your spouse. No good marriage ends in divorce. There may be a considerable amount of resentment between you two, but you shouldn’t let that affect your relationship with your children. They may sense the tension but lack the emotional maturity to address it with you.

    Don’t badmouth your spouse to your kids. The last thing you want is to give your spouse any ammunition to claim parental alienation. If your spouse tries to badmouth you to the children, you may want to just let them dig their own hole. Document everything in case you need to take additional legal action, but focus on being the bigger person and a consistent presence for your kids.

  • Ultimately, you want to make sure that your kids can trust you. They may be experiencing a range of conflicting emotions, and you need to be the one to help calm them down. Assure them that you’re not going anywhere and that their parents still love them very much. Do what you can to strengthen the bond and let your kids talk to you at their own pace.

FAQs

Q: Which Custody Arrangement Is the Most Effective?

A: There’s no easy way to answer that. No custody arrangement is definitively better than any other. It all depends on what works for the family in question. What may work perfectly for one set of co-parents may be too much for another to handle and could actually make things worse for them. The court tends to prefer joint custody, as that custody arrangement ensures both parents share equal responsibility for child-rearing.

Q: When Should I Start Considering Dating?

A: It’s up to you to decide when you feel ready to start dating again. Everyone moves past their divorce at different rates. Depending on who filed, what led to the split, and how long it’s been since the divorce was finalized, you may be in a much different stage of acceptance than your ex. Before dating, you may want to consider discussing your intentions with your children. You don’t want them to think you’re trying to replace their other parent.

Q: Should I Pursue Mediation?

A: Yes, you may want to consider pursuing mediation. Sitting down with a neutral third party who can weigh in when needed and control the conversation between you and your ex may be exactly what you need. If your divorce is contentious and your spouse refuses to cooperate in any meaningful way, a mediator can be a valuable resource. If your spouse continues to be spiteful, there are no guarantees that mediation will go anywhere. Still, it could help.

Q: Is There a Chance I Could Lose Custody?

A: Unfortunately, there is always a chance that you could lose custody. However, if your case is strong enough, your financial position is solid, and you have no history of abuse or neglect, there is no reason you should be worried about losing custody. A good lawyer can help you build a case that showcases your skills and experience as a present parent. You may want to be prepared for a fight, though, if your spouse is vindictive.

Reach Out to a Lawyer Today

At Stange Law Firm, we can help you work out what to say to your kids about your divorce. You want to be able to be there for them while also navigating your divorce. An experienced lawyer may be just what you need. Contact us to speak with a member of our team about your case.